Do you know that the Buddha has taught about how to deal with someone’s anger during his times?
In the Samyutta Nikaya (SN7.2) ~ Akkosa Sutta :
(Click at the Sutta to read the whole sutta)
“…….Thus reviled, the Blessed One spoke to the brahman Akkosa Bharadvaja:
‘Well, brahman, do friends, confidants, relatives, kinsmen and guests visit you?”
“Yes, Gotama, sometimes friends, confidants, relatives, kinsmen and guests do visit me.”
“Well, brahman, do you not offer them snacks or food or tidbits?”
“Yes, Gotama, sometimes I do offer them snacks or food or tidbits.”
“But if, brahman, they do not accept it, who gets it?”
“If Gotama, they do not accept it, I get it back.”
“Even so, brahman, you are abusing us who do not abuse,
you are angry with us who do not get angry,
you are quarreling with us who do not quarrel.
All this of yours we don’t accept.
You alone, brahman, get it back;
all this, brahman, belongs to you…. “
How true indeed… when someone is angry with you and starts to abuse you with hurtful words, you do not need to “accept” them. In other words, you have the right to reject and not allow yourself to be abused.
Watch your thoughts… let those words bounce back to the person… be at peace with your mind ~ silently and sincerely wish that person: “May you be well and happy “.
No need to react to those angry words and if need to, walk away…. or simply copy the Buddha and question the person with the above questions.. that would be fun ya!