Is it just “me”?

Someone recently made me think if I am an unlikeable person… Personally, I think I am a pretty friendly person and get along pretty well with people… but somehow this person makes me feel differently…¬†ūüė≠

Is it just “me”? ¬†Is it “my” ego? ¬†Why should “I” be affected by this person?

As a practising Buddhist, I understand exactly what is happening to my thoughts but as a worldling, I feel miserable coz I believe I am the only one getting such treatment… ¬† WHY me???

I have advised my friends not to be affected by other people’s behaviours and speeches… yet, I am not able to handle a similar situation… haizzz…. ¬†ūüėď

Guess I still got lots to learn and practise… to constantly remind myself of¬†impermanence, non-self and sufferings (Ti-Lakkhana).

This too shall pass
~ whatever I feel now will pass coz nothing lasts forever…

It is not “me”
~ let go of my “ego” to feel that “I” am so important that “I” must be liked by everyone… this body is only a vehicle that this consciousness is borrowing to try walk the path to liberation…

If I continue to torment my mind, I am inducing sufferings to myself…
one should not hurt self with a second arrow (to the mind) if one arrow is already in the physical body, which may not be avoidable… coz the mind can be tamed through meditation…

So, Linda, get over it!  
It is not worth your time and effort to wonder and ponder!
Live in the present and let go of the past!
Focus on what is more important, which can help you one step nearer to liberation ya…
Gambate!!!

Phew! ¬†I feel so much better now! ¬†Now that I have let it out of my chest! ¬†ūüėÖ

For better understanding of Anatta (Non-self or Egoless), click here ya.

A crushed crush!

Since I am not enlightened yet, not surprise if I still get crushes, right? After all, I am still human ya.  LOL! 

However, crushes at this age is so different from crushes when I was young… especially after learning about Buddhism and practising it. ¬†Not that I am holy, holy with the precepts and all but just that I am more mindful about my feelings, speeches and actions.

The reminder of impermanence, non self and unsatisfactory make it easier to take my focus away from the person.  And meditation definitely helps alot coz the mind can be tamed from delusions and attachments.  Awesome!  Buddhism is simply awesome! 

Nothing is permanent, so is feelings…. the crush just disappeared as quickly as it appeared. ¬†I just crushed the crush! ¬†LOL!!¬†¬†

It was not difficult at all… ¬†coz everything begins and ends with the mind… you think it is, it is; you think it is not, it is not… simple! ¬†

Always remember that you cannot control another person’s feelings but you can control your own… by understanding the nature of life, the truth of the Dhamma, by seeing things as they really are, you will not harp on the feelings and continue life with more meaningful things coz life is not just about feelings or perceptions… it is about understanding why we feel such and why we perceive such… if we can see craving and attachment, we will understand, we are simply being selfish wanting.

We are (by nature) not permanent¬†and we always end up chasing for something that is not permanent (another person) too and this will only cause unsatisfactory…. which is known as sufferings too… learn and understand the Dhamma more and you will know what I am sharing with you today.

If I have more time, I will try elaborate more of the above Dhamma in my next post ya…

Till then, may you be well and happy  

 

Birthdays

Recently there were many birthday celebrations and of course, that simply means more dinners to celebrate the special day for and with the birthday boys and gals. 

Last Friday, during Brother Tan’s talk at BMV, he said he was touched when his students chose to observe 8 precepts on his birthday and then transfer merits to him… I think that was awesome!  In fact, it is an wholesome act for the birthday boy and/ girl to observe 8 precepts on the day.  

Having said that, I have stopped celebrating my birthday since I touched 50 coz I became a Buddhist scholar then to understand that sufferings began from that day!  Hence, to me, it is not a date for celebrations! 

Though I may not want to celebrate the day, I cannot stop my friends from wanting to celebrate it with / for me though… still feel thankful ya … 

I do not know how I would spend my birth date this year… when the day come, I shall know… till then, I shall practise to live in the moment…. 

Happy New Year 2017

‚ÄčAnother year is ending?

Is it really so?

Or is it just a change of the calendar?

While all others remain the same?

Man measure time and days

Mark birthdays and anniversaries

Set some dates to celebrate

Some good reasons to make a change

To get together and spend money

Send well wishes or simply forward

What is received – chats, vids or gifs

To those dear to heart 

For the sake to stay in touch

To those remembered

Or to an acquaintance

whose name in the phone list is found

Whatever the reasons

Whatever the circumstances

I will do what others do

Here’s wishing you ahead

All that are good will go your way

That you will be well and happy

Let go of all that had happened

Always remember to live in the present

Best if can live moment to moment

When today is over

Another day will come again

Many call it a new day or even a new year

Some call it new hope 

Some call it a miracle

Whichever you choose to name it

To the ignorants it is just another day

Another to live by

Till another goodbye

Of a day, hopefully, of blue skies and everything nice

You will live it as how you choose to

May you have the wisdom 

To live it well, peaceful and happy

And in harmony with all other beings….

 Happy  New Year 2017

.
~Linda

31/12/2016

Buddhist Birthday Song? Huh??

I bet you, as a Buddhist (if you are not one, you are excused ), also do not know about this birthday song!!  

I also did not know it until I joined B.I.S.D.S as a teacher!  And I say it is a more meaningful song compared to the normal Birthday song  

First, check out the lyrics here:

Happy Birthday, this is your day
May your wishes come true
May the Buddha bless you always
May the Dharma guide you!

(For adults)
Ever growing in the Sangha
Both in wisdom and compassion
Be a refuge unto yourself
Till you’re free from delusion!

(For children)
Ever growing in the Sangha
Both in wisdom and compassion
Little children love your parents
Little Buddha’s you’ll ever be!

Happy Birthday, this is your day
May your wishes come true
May the Buddha bless you always
May the Dharma guide you
Happy Birthday to you!

Next, sing along lor!

 

Which birthday song do you prefer?  

 

Am worldly, still…

Just the other day, while having fun at the mahjong table, big sister was humming some oldies and I recalled the first few Mandarin songs that I like during my school days… yah, that was a long, long, long time ago … ¬†

Searched the YouTube and found¬†this, my first¬†¬†Mandarin song, and I am sharing it with you…. with my humble translation below…

The Song:  My Home is There 
The Lyrics:
(Though I do not know Chinese, I guess the meaning to be as below:)
South wind softly blow again
Blow against the field of green grass
The grass gently sway side to side
What a beautiful sight
The sun ray touches the vast land
Green grass in sprinkles of gold
The grass and the horizon as if one
Makes one gaze in maze
Each time I pass by here
I forget all my worries
There’s also a clear running stream
Accompanying the field of green
Looking from above to below
The wooden house is standing there
That, is my heart warming home
There, is where I stay … ¬†

Hmmm… you like it too?